Armchair BEA day 4: Nurturing Relationships

Today's topic took me a couple tries before I decided on what, exactly, I wanted to write about. I've been a blogger for years, but I have haven't been a book blogger for very long. And, well, book blogging is a completely different (but super fun) world. I've found that there are different approaches when it comes to nurturing relationships with bloggers, authors, and publishers, and I'd like to give you mine. I'm definitely not an expert in this area, but I have at least learned a thing or two these past few months.

For today's post, I have taken a few of the questions from the Armchair BEA post (along with one or two of my own) and turned them into a short interview for myself. Weird, I know, but hopefully beneficial!

What do you struggle with when it comes to nurturing relationships between bloggers, publishers, and authors?
The hardest thing for me is walking that fine line between professionalism and friendship. I have a huge problem with using too many exclamation points and smiley faces, and just being way too perky when I type, so I have to remember to tone it down sometimes. The opposite of this happens when I am trying to keep my emails short and to the point. Sometimes I worry that they become too short and to the point. Words can be interpreted so many different ways on the internet, and so I find myself analyzing the pros and cons of each sentence, hoping I don't sound either rude or perky...or annoying.

What do you wish someone had told you in the beginning?
That you don't have to read every book out there to have a successful blog. I am guilty of trying to read so many books, even types of books that I didn't like, because everyone else was raving about them. It wasn't until I realized that it was okay to be picky, that I was truly happy with what I was reading. Two things I discovered since then: I love contemporaries, and I hate books about angels (with very few exceptions). Now I know.

How would you like to be approached by a publisher or author who is pitching their book?
The thing I love the most is when the person has read my review policies. My first clue as to whether or not this has happened, is the type of book I am being pitched; often times it is in a genre I don't read, or something like that. After that, I love a friendly approach and having information about the book readily accessible.

What are your best tips on working with publishers and authors?
What I have learned so far is this:

  • Authors are people, too...treat them like it!
  • Authors can be very busy, especially if they are working on writing that sequel you're so anxious for. Don't waste their time!
  • Publishers get a lot of requests from bloggers who want to review their books. Send ARC requests long before the book will be released, and then be patient!
  • Respond to every email as soon as you can. I'm terrible at this, especially if I'm going to be turning down a review request. I dread it and put it off because I don't know what to say that doesn't make me sound like a snob. I'm still working on this.
  • Don't forget to say thank you! You probably already know this (props to your Mom), but it's worth repeating. :)

Who are some bloggers you feel nurture their relationships well?
I'm could go crazy with this (there are so many people I could name!), so I'm going to limit myself to three:

Juju is one the kind of blogger who stops by all the time, and comments on every post that she can. She always has a few words to say. I honestly don't know how she keeps up with so many blogs, but I have come to look forward to her comments on my posts.

Gina is like the voice of truth to me. I can always count on her to say exactly what she's thinking, whether in a comment or on her blog, and whether she hates or loves something. Not only is it nice to know you're hearing the truth, but it makes for some good discussions!

They are a great example of nurturing relationships with authors and publishers; from the many reviews they post, to their many author chats, interviews, tours, and cover reals. They are great at promoting awareness of authors, books, and things happening in the YA world.

Do you have any tips for nurturing relationships?


  1. I also love the Mundie Moms!

  2. The "fine line between professionalism and friendship" is really a challenge. I blogging I don't mind it at all, especially if it's a reflection of the personality of the blogger. You get to know a lot about a person from the way she writes.

  3. It is definitely okay to be picky! If you're not you will be reading a lot of stuff you really don't want to be reading.

  4. I have the same exclamation point/smiley face problem when I type. I know that since there is no inflection in type, that things can be misunderstood very easily. Since I hate any type of conflict, I think that I overcompensate with the exclamation points and smiley faces.

    I also have a problem with the turn down email--I just don't know what to say! Like, who am *I* to turn down their book? It's so difficult.

    Thanks so much for the great post!

    Here is my post on book blogging relationships!

  5. Rather than talk about bookstores, publishers or bloggers, I'm talking about volunteering. Come see what I mean.

  6. I had trouble with today's topic as well and kind of went off topic. Ooops oh well. I deal with the same problem of being overly excited when it comes to my typing. I keep reminding myself not to be like Heidi from Along for the Ride by SD. Great advice. Blogging is definitely a learning process like anything else in life.

  7. Very good points you bring up, the post is very good! I don't know what I'd do without my blogger friends. Love 'em all. So great to have people in the same situation to talk to. And to go a bit crazy with. ;)

    My Nurturing Relationships post can be found here!

    Rebecca @ kindle fever

  8. This to the INFINITE power:

    The hardest thing for me is walking that fine line between professionalism and friendship. I have a huge problem with using too many exclamation points and smiley faces, and just being way too perky when I type, so I have to remember to tone it down sometimes.

  9. I'm so stikin' guilty of trying to keep my e-mails short and being afraid that I'm coming off as too abrupt. xD The only thing that I can think to say about your post is: I AGREE SO MUCH!
    Actually, the first thing that I did after reading your post was shout, "THIS!" and quite possibly frightened my friend who was sitting next to me. xD Awesome post. <3

  10. Gina: Agreed! I love their content.

    Alexandra: That is very true! I love seeing personality on a blog.

    Chrisbookarama: It sure is! :)

    Kaitlyn: So glad to know I'm not the only one! Lol. Thanks for your comment!

    Puss Reboots: I'm on my way after this! :)

    Devan: I LOVE SD! I haven't read Along For the Ride yet, but I think I know what you mean. :) Thanks for stopping by!

    Bex: Thanks for your comment! I'll be stopping by your blog later.

    Bonnie: I'm glad you like that part! Thanks for stopping by!

    Kristin: Thanks! It's good to know I'm not alone in these things!!

  11. Awesome advice!

    *high five*

    Amen on treating authors like people!

    And thank you SO much for listing me! I'm so honored. You are a super sweet fav of mine :)

  12. Juju: You are so welcome! Thanks for always commenting! :)


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